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The Lenten Journey
Some people find it surprising that I like Lent. I really do like Lent. To me, Lent is a gift from the Church that invites me to step out of the ordinary madness of life and to slow the game of life down. Some friends of mine who are very holy say they refuse to “give things up” for Lent because they say denial eliminates joy. Other friends that I consider very holy say that to “give things up for Lent” is a meaningful discipline that leads to transformation.
I personally welcome Lent as a time of discipline. I do “give things up” but not to seek God’s favor. Rather, by fasting from certain things, I am led by the Holy Spirit to see those things that block my view of God or block my ability to see my neighbors needs.
As you consider a Lenten discipline you might want to think about:
- Meatless Wednesday’s and Friday’s not only to focus on a spiritual discipline regarding eating but also to live out issues of social justice. The amount of grain that it takes to feed a cow for meat production, would feed over 100 people around the world. By simplifying one’s eating life one connects with the poor and the hungry and works to support their needs.
- Extra time in prayer and devotion through the Word brings one before the presence of God to be transformed in powerful ways.
- Continuing to look at one’s life in order to simplify and reduce participation in consumerism.
- To serve God by serving neighbor.
- A time of silent retreat for two or three days to be with the Word and before the Word.
The Lenten discipline is to support the stripping away of those things that keep one from seeing God.
No commentsWhat would Martin Luther do today?
The YM 2008 Conference was wonderful. Dan Kimball did a wonderful job of raising questions. We could discuss the answers….I don’t think we would totally agree….but I LOVE the questions.
Kimball went back and wrote on his web page about the conference and then he did this part:
« Imagining Martin Luther if he was just starting out in ministry today
It had never occurred to me that the Reformation was a young adult movement. Luther was only 29 when he nailed the 95 thesis. The young adults of today are bringing about another new movement in the Church and in many ways it is a breath of fresh air.
If we intend to be authentic in our ministries we must be about the business of dialog and discussing the elephants that Kimball says are on the table. Kimball raises most of these issues in his book, “They Like Jesus but not the Church” which I find to be a powerful book. It is so important to raise the questions. The answers will come as we submit to the Word of God and let the Holy Spirit lead.
Bottom line……it is about hospitality and a ministry of listening as together we seek how God is calling each of us to do ministry.
No commentsA Metaphor from a less than 600 Pound Gorilla
Ishmael is the gorilla’s name. Yes, he is under 600 pounds and he talks and he is a philosopher. Ishmael is the prime character in three books written by Daniel Quinn (Ishmael, My Ismael, The Story of B). Ishmael helps his students understand that the world is divided by Takers and Leavers, each with their own philosophy about how to use the world’s resources and how to structure a society. Ishmael likes to teach through stories (no, Ismael is anything but a Christ-figure) and they are stories that make you scratch your head and wonder what to do.
So the story I want to draw your attention to deals with the topic of education. Ishmael and Julie have been talking about the role of schools in society and how the over-professionalization of schools only works in a Taker society, etc. Ishmael reminds me a bit of the writings of Paulo Friere, anyway, he proceeds with a story. (My personal application of this story was to religious education.)
The Story
“Once upon a time a distinguished elder blue-winged teal by the name of Titi called a great conference of other distinguished elders to be held on the Isle of Wight in the English Channel. When they were at last gathered and settled down, one slightly less distinguished blue-winged teal by the name of Ooli stepped forward to make some introductory remarks.
‘I am sure you all know who Titi is,’ he began, ‘but in case you don’t, I’ll tell you. He is without a doubt, the greatest scientist of our age, and the world’s foremost authority on avian migration, which he has studied longer and deeper than any other teal in history, blue-winged or otherwise. I don’t know why he’s called us together here at this time, but I don’t doubt that his reasons are excellent.’ And with that, Ooli turned the meeting over to Titi.
“Titi ruffled his feathers a bit to gather everyone’s attention, then said, ‘I’ve come here today to urge upon you a vitally important innovation in the rearing of our young.’ Well, Titi certainly got everyone’s attention with his announcement, and he was deluged with questions from teals who demanded to know what was supposed to be wrong with chick-rearing practices that had worked for blue-winged teals for more generations than any of them could count.’”‘
The Continuation of the Story in my words (to shorten it a bit)
Titi went on to explain all the things that were keeping the blue-winged teals from migrating efficiently and he proposed that instead of letting the parents teach the chicks how to migrate effectively and meaningfully, that he, Titi, would organize a school of professionals in the field of migration to teach more effective migration. The blue-winged teals did not feel confident challenging such an expert so within a few years (ok, another quote from the book) “they were spending long evening hours with their chicks trying to comprehend and explain such things as tracking patterns, navigation mechanisims, degree of return, and degrees of dispersal and convergence. Instead of frolicking in the morning sunshine, chicks learned calculus……………” and it goes on to describe all of the other scientific points needed in order to migrate effectively.
The Conclusion to the Story
“The initial failures of the new education system were spectacular but not unexpected………It was finally accepted that ordinary parents were not in fact qualified to teach their children anything as complex as migratory science. This was something only professionals could be expected to handle. [italics mine] Chicks were henceforth taken from the nest at an early age and turned over to a new cadre of specialists, who organized their young charges into brutally competitive units, imposing on them high standards, uniform testing, and harsh discipline. A certain amount of adverse reaction to the new regime was expected and soon materialized, in the form of chronic truancy, hostility, depression and suicide among the young. New cadres of truancy officers, guards, psychotherapists, and counselors struggled to keep things under control, but before long members of the flock were streaking away like residents of a burning building (for Titi and Ooli were not quite mad enough to think they could keep the flock together by force).
“After the two old friends watched the last remnants of the flock scatter in the sky, Ooli shook his head and wondered where they’d gone wrong. Titi ruffled his feathers irritably and said, “We went wrong by failing to take into account a great truth, namely that teals are stupid and lazy, and perfectly content to stay that way.”
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Well I read this and wonder about the question I keep hearing, “Why are young adults leaving the Church?”
Would invite your reactions to my thoughts……………………
Quinn, D. (1997) My Ishmael: A Sequel. New York: Bantam Books.
Crisis and Faith Formation
One of the folks who posted on Pivot Point mentioned that he was intrigued that I had said on a retreat that my own expression of spirituality had changed as a result of a crisis in my life. The crisis prompted me to a more inward journey than before and seeking to be aware of the full presence of God, that I knew to be there because of my Baptism, but yet was not completely revealed. The crisis led me inward to discover the loving presence of Christ that had already been there.
So, the questioner brings up the role of crisis in faith formation and says, “It was interesting to see how you jumped to another quadrant as a result of crisis. I wonder if that is the catalyst that helps many jump if they ever will. I suspect a crisis will do one of three things. Help you jump to another quadrant, get deeper into your quadrant or jump off of the grid altogether [meaning to abandon the faith]” Note: quadrant refers to the model of Spirituality Types developed by Urban Holmes (1980).
Well, great question! So I began to think about this. In psychology we are told that learning takes place at a time of “cognitive dissonance”; a time in which we rearrange our thought patterns and learning about the world. That, in essence, is a learning crisis that brings about change.
Luther described such a time with the word “Anfectung” Luther biographer, Roland Bainton writes in Here I Stand, “The word he [Luther] used was Anfectung, for which there is no English equivalent. It may be a trial sent by God to test man, or an assault by the Devil to destroy man. It is all the doubt, turmoil, pang, tremor, panic, despair, desolation, and desparation which invades the spirit of man.” (Bainton, R. 1950, Here I Stand: A Life of Martin Luther, Abingdon). Luther asserted that it was this Anfectung that would lead one to the cross and closer to Jesus, thereby bringing about spiritual growth and depth.
St. John of the Cross speaks of “the dark night of the soul” and Theresa of Avila speaks of dryness. In Mother Teresa, Come Be My Light: The Private Writings of the “Saint of Calcutta” we read of Mother Teresa’s time of darkness and abandonment where she came to connect with the darkness of those abandoned in poverty and a life with not hope. In all three of these spiritual leaders we hear the same types of stories told by Luther.
So, the faith journey is impacted by crisis whether it be internal or external. Transitions bring growth. Yes, each of these can bring despair. In all of those who write in faith, they describe the deepening of their prayer life as the struggle went on. Satan would seek to have these times lead to despair, yet, the Holy Spirit, present in Word and Sacrament strengthens in the way of faith and grace.
So, I now have much more to think about and to pray about in terms of faith formation and how the Holy Spirit brings that about. Would love to hear the comments of others.
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